Birth Baby Sleep
  • Home
  • Birth
    • Live Prenatal Classes
    • Self-Directed Prenatal Classes
    • Perinatal Support Network
  • Baby
    • New Baby Support
    • Membership
    • Podcast
    • Mom Chats
    • Perinatal Support Network
  • Sleep
    • Support Packages
    • Membership
  • BUB Members
    • Preparing For Baby
  • Blog
  • Contact

Blog

Seeking Perinatal Mental Health Help

1/25/2023

 
When it comes to parenting, there can still be a lot of stigma, especially around mental health. We find ourselves telling our friends and family that “life is good”, and we feel that we shouldn’t complain, but here’s the thing, you can totally complain.

Parenting is hard, let’s talk about it. Seeking mental health help, no matter where you are in your parenting journey; trying to conceive, pregnant or postpartum, is nothing to be ashamed of.

Let’s break the stigma, and talk about mental health care and resources.

The information in this post came from the conversation I had with Madeleine Stobbe on my podcast Bringing Up Baby. Madeleine is a Registered Psychologist and she specializes in treatment for perinatal mental health issues including depression and anxiety during pregnancy and postpartum, issues related to infertility, perinatal grief and loss, and reproductive trauma.

Breaking The Stigma

I don’t think anyone is fully prepared for what it’s like to leave the hospital with a newborn. Not only are you going through the physical healing of having a baby, you are dealing with hormones, and emotions of becoming a parent.

On Instagram you probably see photos of sleeping babies, and a new parent with a hot drink, but it’s important to realize that this is not the reality for most parents, it’s a curated post.

There’s a wide spectrum of experiences that new parents go through. It’s not about whether or not you’ve been diagnosed with a mental health disorder, it’s about normalizing the experience so that you aren’t struggling alone.

Read more about Postpartum Hormone Changes & What To Expect

When To Seek Treatment

When it comes to seeking treatment, it’s important to know that you don’t need a diagnosis to see a mental health professional.

There’s no right or wrong time to seek therapy, and there’s no right or wrong issue. Sometimes partners want to come in together and sometimes it’s just one parent.

Some common reasons people seek therapy are:
  • Low mood
  • Anxiety
  • Excessive worrying about baby’s safety
  • Traumatic birth experience
  • NICU babies
  • Postpartum rage
You may also seek therapy because you don’t feel like you have anyone to talk to or you don’t feel supported.

Anything that is impacting your life can be a reason to seek therapy.
Picture

How To Know If It’s A Mental Health Issue

As parents, especially first time parents, it can be easy to brush off your experiences as lack of sleep, stress, and something that all parents go through.

Many other people tend to brush off your feelings as “you signed up for this when you decided to have a baby”.

So how can you actually know if it’s a mental health issue, or just a “season of life”?

  • If your distress is persistent; day after day you have feelings of hopelessness or like it will never get better. 
  • If it feels difficult to connect with your partner or loved ones.
  • If it is affecting your ability to care for yourself and/or your baby. 
  • If it is affecting your sleep or appetite.

These are all signs that it is time to seek additional help. You can start with your primary care provider, and also check out the resources listed at the bottom of this post.

What is Therapy Like?

If you’ve never been to therapy before, it can seem a bit daunting. Every therapist is going to work a little differently, depending on your unique situation and your goals.

For the most part your therapist will talk to you about your background, and what you’re struggling with.

You should feel comfortable and safe, and your therapist should give you a chance to ask questions.

Treatment will vary based on your situation, it could be regular appointments, or periodic check ins.
Picture

Resources

Know that this is a temporary chapter of your life, and these feelings won’t last forever. Perinatal mental health issues are treatable conditions and with help, you can be well.

Here are some of the best places to seek care:

  • Your Doctor/ primary care provider - Always the best place to start, they may be able to make referrals or other tests if necessary. 
  • Nova Scotia Mental Health Crisis Line - 1-888-429-8167
  • IWK Reproductive Mental Health Services - If you are in Nova Scotia, the IWK has services for pregnant and postpartum people experiencing moderate to severe psychiatric symptoms. You must be referred by your primary care provider, obstetrician, midwife, nurse practitioner or an attending physician.
  • Psychology Today - You can search for psychologists and/or counsellors who specialize in postpartum mental health. Many are offering virtual services if traveling to appointments is an issue.
  • Postpartum Support International - They provide resources, online support groups, and a provider directory. 
  • Halifax Perinatal Support Network - An online and in person group for those pregnant and postpartum to share information and resources. There are also monthly virtual sessions on a variety of topics including things like Mom Guilt and the Mental Load.

Final Thoughts

As parents, you are going to have amazing moments where you feel so connected or bonded to your child. You’re going to have moments that are just neutral or good, but there will also be moments when you struggle.

It’s important that we normalize all those moments, and also seek help when the hard moments are affecting your life.

If you are looking for another way to connect with other parents, get support from a certified Baby & Sleep Specialist (me!) check out my Bringing Up Baby Membership.

Comments are closed.

    Author

    Ashley Cooley is a birth, baby and sleep specialist living in Dartmouth, NS with her husband and their three girls.

    Archives

    February 2023
    January 2023
    December 2022
    November 2022
    October 2022
    September 2022
    August 2022
    July 2022
    June 2022
    May 2022
    April 2022
    December 2021
    September 2021
    July 2021
    November 2020
    June 2020
    March 2017
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016

    Categories

    All
    Attachment
    Big Kids
    Car Seats
    Daycare
    Daylight Savings
    Parents
    Safety
    Siblings
    Sleep

    RSS Feed

Proudly powered by Weebly
  • Home
  • Birth
    • Live Prenatal Classes
    • Self-Directed Prenatal Classes
    • Perinatal Support Network
  • Baby
    • New Baby Support
    • Membership
    • Podcast
    • Mom Chats
    • Perinatal Support Network
  • Sleep
    • Support Packages
    • Membership
  • BUB Members
    • Preparing For Baby
  • Blog
  • Contact